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Patience - posted by Pile of Coathangers at 12/03 10:33AM The past couple of days have been miserable for me. As I trudge the road to happy destiny I feel like a jackass led by a carrot. First, I am clearly realizing that the source of 99.9 % of my problems stems from fear, false pride and most definitely lack of patience. Second, the last meeting I made was Saturday night. and third, haven't talked to anyone in the program for several days. If it’s any consolation, I have continued to pray, though! The sad thing is at this point in life knowing what I know I still choose to cut myself off from everyone and everything that helps keep me sober and serene. It’s almost like I choose to be miserable because it’s an old familiar feeling. WTF, I'm sitting here feeling sorry for myself because I don't make enough money, don't have a girl friend etc etc. Hell, Sunday I was on top of the world and felt like I had made a huge spiritual step realizing my HP had always taken care of me and that the future would not be any different so long as I continued to work the steps. Even right now I know better days are a head if I continue to put the plug in the jug. I suppose that I feel sorry for myself that things are not happening fast enough for me right now. Not sure I made any sense, but had to post this anyway.

re: Patience - posted by Norma Desmond on 12/03 11:27AM Pile of Coathangers, Being willing to stay sober no matter how I feel has built for me a foundation of faith in the higher power and security in AA. Although I don't yet have all the temporal blessings I desire, I know they are not the answer. I also know that getting them too soon, or the wrong way, will only lead to disillusionment or worse. The gift of spiritual strength that comes from the willingness to suffer is greater than any of the glittering prizes the world can offer. That's why the book calls this the way OF happy destiny, not the way to happy destiny. Peace, Norma

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